Comments on: Life Changes

By: Allene Niswander

Allene Niswander — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 14:07:01 +0000

loved this writing!

By: Linda G Cox

Linda G Cox — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 16:25:03 +0000

Yes Darlene! You are a wonderful example of allowing yourself to feel the loss and then move on. I’m very grateful that I have you in my life so we can learn and grow together!
Linda G Cox´s last blog ..Walking Update: June 1, 2010

By: Darlene

Darlene — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 23:11:19 +0000

You are right, Cherie:) It is probably in how we choose to view the picture, right?

By: Darlene

Darlene — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 23:09:17 +0000

Debbie,

Sometimes it is hard to remember that everything happens for a reason—but in hindsight it does. Your story is powerful. Thanks so much for sharing it. I’ll carry Gary Allen’s quote with me.

By: Debbie Wood

Debbie Wood — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 22:16:02 +0000

Darlene, this is a beautiful post and you are a very eloquent writer yourself! It has so much meaning for me because I’m on both ends of the spectrum as far as change and things remaining the same.

I have a “best friend” that I’ve known since she was born and I was 6 months old. She still lives five minutes away from me and we see each other at least once a week. She’s my one “I can always count on you” friend. Because I am back living in the house I grew up in her parents are still my neighbors. They are not doing well now and the kids are trying to keep them in their house for as long as they can, so we help out as much as we can, since they are like parents to me also.

Other side of the coin::::

Four years ago my husband of 12 years “decided” he didn’t want to be married any more, out of the blue, no warning. Now that was change. At first I didn’t think I would make it through, but along with the amazing support of friends and family remaining, I put one foot in front of the other and now I see that I would not be the person I am today had I remained in that marriage.

I think the most important thing to remember is that EVERYTHING in life happens for a reason. We may not see it now, but just like when you look at a beautiful tapestry that looks all together on the front, when you look at the back you see a lot of threads going every which way, some cut off, and abruptly ended and some knotted, or joined with a another thread that appears to come out of nowhere. Bottom line is that when they all come together and you look at your life (or the tapestry) from the front, it’s a work of art.

As Gary Allen says “Life ain’t always beautiful, but it’s a beautiful ride”

Keep up the good work Darlene. I look forward to visiting your blog often and learning much !!!

By: Cherie Bombell

Cherie Bombell — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 21:26:24 +0000

Thought provoking post, Darlene. Prompted me to think loss is only a perception. We are often too quick to judge what is ‘good’ and ‘bad’ – often what we first think is a negative proves to be positive for us and a gain.

By: Darlene

Darlene — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 01:57:58 +0000

Johneal, You have such a positive way of looking at things. New and positive things are happening constantly:) I appreciate your friendship too!

By: Johneal Rouse

Johneal Rouse — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 01:05:17 +0000

Great post, Darlene
It’s true that at some stage in our lives, a lot that we held dear and in common with old friends no longer means the same to either of us. And the process is difficult and painful to go through sometimes. Have had a similar experience recently. And find it helpful to hold the affection and regard i feel for the other, even if we are unable to sustain the old ways of relating. Also to recognise that the only way for us to grow and change sometimes is for something that we hold on to dearly to be pulled apart from us.. as the only way of making room for something new and more vital that’s always taking shape.. Thanks for being a great friend..I love that Carole King song, by the way..
Johneal