“I ain’t what I ought to be,
and I ain’t what I’m going to be.
But I ain’t what I was!”
Sign in a Western Town
Grab a really dear friend and share this book together: Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes, by William Bridges.
It can open doors for you that you didn’t know existed. Bridges explains how “change is situational. Transition, on the other hand, is psychological. It is not those events, but rather the inner reorientation and self-redefinition that you have to go through in order to incorporate any of those changes into your life. “
If you fail to process the transitions in your life, you could easily continue to repeat the same behavior patterns.
Reading this book together with a lifelong friend of mine has been an amazing journey. We have learned a lot about ourselves and each other. I highly recommend this powerful book.
You’ll learn a lot about how you’ve processed transitions in your life.
To an Ever-Expanding Journey,
August 30th, 2010 at 4:54 pm
Hey Darlene~
This book looks like a wonderful book to read with someone like you did! Talk about introspection! Being able to look at perceptions together with a friend and compare would be a blast! That is my idea of a good time! Even before I was slowed down with MS, talking on a deep level like that was my favorite thing to do!
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August 30th, 2010 at 5:25 pm
It has been an awesome experience, Linda. Through the process my friend and I have gotten closer, too.
August 31st, 2010 at 12:16 am
Hi Darlene
. You are becoming a real professional on video. Well done.
The book sounds fascinating and you certainly have made me want to read it.
I also love the way you have various movie clips coming over each other – or transitioning from one to the other
Sue
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August 31st, 2010 at 6:42 am
Thank you, Sue. The book is a true treasure. I’d love to hear some of your experiences after you’ve read it.
There is so much to learn with videos. I appreciate your encouraging words!
August 31st, 2010 at 6:14 am
Hello darling Darlene! Boy, can we all relate to the transitions of the pre-teen age!(never goin back!)”But I ain’t what I was” is a comforting thought.It is interesting to note that transitions occur most often with change…change is sort of the catalyst for introspection. I really do think we can access a point within ourselves that can guide us to seeing from the end…how exactly to do this is a study in itself.
Thank you for the insights, Kim
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August 31st, 2010 at 6:44 am
Kim, It is a fascinating study that we are able to access within ourselves; however, when you take the journey with someone else who knows you inside out, it is a little easier.
August 31st, 2010 at 6:39 am
Thanks Darlene for sharing that. I agree identifying your transitions in your life are very important for you to release that baggage because what does that have to do with you now and who you’re being.
Thanks again,
Michael
September 2nd, 2010 at 8:05 pm
Thanks Darlene for sharing some of your transitions. I have experienced more transitions than most having lived on four continents in four decades living through many major challenges and cross-roads. I believe that transitions are given to us as part of our destiny – they are learning experiences through which we can grow and fulfill our God-given purpose.
Blessings
Clare
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September 8th, 2010 at 3:00 pm
Yes, Clare, transitions are part of our destiny. They can only be learning experiences, however, if we’re willing to process them!
September 3rd, 2010 at 9:24 pm
Thanks for this Darlene, I am having trouble transitioning to my 50th year so I think this is a book I need to read at the moment. Clare says it is part of our destiny and something that I will be able to grow through. Can’t I just learn my lesson and move on. You are doing some really great videos.
Belinda
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September 8th, 2010 at 3:02 pm
Belinda, Can’t believe you are hitting the magic 50! You look 30, my friend! Thanks for the video feedback. It has been quite a learning experience!
September 4th, 2010 at 8:39 am
You come across very naturally in your videos. I liked your explanation and the idea of approaching something as a 90 year old. It sounds as though you and your friend have had an interesting time exploring ‘transitions’. I’d never thought of life in this way before, well not in any great detail, it just seemed one big jumble of events. Hope you’re having a great weekend.
Best wishes
Joanna
September 8th, 2010 at 3:04 pm
Thanks, Joanna. The idea of approaching something from a 90-year-old’s perspective gave me a new way to look at the future (or the current crossroads)
September 4th, 2010 at 10:58 am
Hey there Darlene,
Transitions sounds like a REALLY good book that I’m gonna have to go pickup. Interesting that you say “change is situational while transition is psychological…”
Truly a quote to remember forever!
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September 8th, 2010 at 3:04 pm
Thanks for visiting my blog. I truly hope you enjoy Transitions!
September 5th, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Darlene,
Since I am an “info-junkie”, this one is going on my list
I also totally get the “repeating patterns”, as I am guilty but getting better all the time. I have always felt, it’s not the event, but how you respond that matter.
Cheers,
Mike
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September 8th, 2010 at 1:02 pm
Darlene I am going to add this book to my list of must reads…..I love the idea of identifying the transitions in your life….I have had many. I think I have dealt with them all somewhere along the way, but this will be a very interesting exercise. There was one transition in my life which I didn’t deal with for a number of years. Looking back I realised that, only when I finally dealt with it, was I able to move on with that part of my life….
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September 16th, 2010 at 8:19 am
I love that you read this book with a dear friend! Very powerful I’m sure.
I resonated with your statement ~ “If you don’t process that end point in the neutral zone, someday in your life you’ll probably have to.” I think we all have to work through things that we experienced in the past, and until we do, true healing doesn’t happen.
I haven’t seen Benjamin Button….but sounds fascinating! Thanks for the recommendation of the movie and book, Darlene.
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October 26th, 2010 at 4:07 pm
Dar,
I LOVE this post and the distinction between change and transition. I definitely agree that the transition mindset is the attitude we must take to approach change in a constructive, purposeful and growth orientation.
Thanks again,
Adam
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October 27th, 2010 at 6:31 pm
Adam,
The book Transitions is on my top five of must reads for 2010. Glad you enjoyed the article.
November 4th, 2010 at 9:03 am
Great post Darlene!
I am currently going through Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and it too is amazing.
Everything that is propelling us forward or holding us back comes from psychological factors. It is tough and kind of sucks to think that we sabotage our selves so often, but that is reality.
If we can address reality we must accept the distressful fantasy land we create daily.
Thanks for the recommendation!
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